Help children build intellectual relationships with food
A few weeks ago, when I left the local post office, I handed out a young mother and her girl. The girl who appeared about 5 years old was crying about something. The mother told her. "If you stop crying, we will give you a cupcake as we come home."
Mother's remarks seemed to be harmless. And the fact that both moms and girls were overweight may not have any relationship at all. Still, I did not think that I would save you. What mistakenly taught her daughter?
Did you tell her that candy is a reward for good behavior? Did she tell her that sweet things are a way to relieve difficult emotions? If a child has learned either or both of these messages, you can combat life-related problems with problems related to weight based on the relationship of dysfunction with the meal.
Recently, new clients received counseling on her obsessive overeating. She told me how she gained this behavior and managed to know the pretense. "When my brother and I were children, our parents told me they could also eat from their brothers' dishes if those who cleaned their dishes first, what message about food? Maybe because it could eat as soon as possible because it could eat as soon as possible.
Anyone eating too much or being compelled to actually feel hungry or fullness? You can not leave the table until you eat all of your table. "" Somewhere else in other children are hungry, so we have to eat it. "" Here, having some cookies, you will feel better. "If you do not eat it, Aunt Jane would think you do not like her dish."
I am a life coach specializing in solution-oriented therapy for habits and stress management It is a counselor. I will help clients compete with many types of customs of both behavior and emotion. As you can probably guess, I have plenty of clients struggling with overeating and obesity.
I have the opportunity to interview hundreds of clients about their diet and food. Having an intelligent relationship with food is to regard food as a source of nutrition and being regarded as food as a nutrition source suggests that many of the obese people have a relationship of dysfunction with food It is not surprising for me to keep it. energy. Hence, hunger and declining energy and concentration are the signals to eat. The person who eats in response to such a signal meets the nutritional needs of my body. They choose their own foods, respond accordingly, and even without conscious effort, size that part. If they get hungry they stop and stop feeling when they are full. We will automatically adjust the balance between calorie intake and energy output to maintain healthy weight.
People who maintain a malfunctioning relationship with food do not eat according to their body needs or body signals. Instead, they turn into food to alleviate troubling emotions, especially fat, sugar, starchy foods. They eat comfortably. It is not due to nutritional value. They think that they are rewards for achieving food or to overcome difficulties. We eat according to external clues such as the smell of food and advertisement of food, the cover of magazine drawing delicious dessert.
They are no longer touching bodily emotions that are feeling full, so there is no intuitive gauge on the size of the appropriate part. They do not know when to stop eating, so they consume extra calories stored as fat and overeat.
Such diet leads to obesity. These habits are resistant to change as they relate to relief from comfort, convenience, stress. They face self-awareness, self-discipline, difficult emotions and effective coping skills – a lot of people substitute efforts to learn to go to treatment.
Certainly there are other factors that contribute to obesity. One factor is abundant abundance of processed foods with low sugar, starch, and filler, high nutritional value, low cost.
Nevertheless, parents may consider the messages they give about their foods to their children if infantile obesity is more prevalent in history. . Through words, actions and examples, there are three things that they can do well to teach:
• Food is for nutrition and energy. Some foods are more nutritious than others
Parents teaching this provide adequate nutritious food for snacks and meals, taste the taste of children for fruit and vegetable taste, Whole wheat flour, sugar and starchy food should be rare and special treatments when their children are young. It is not a staple of everyday.
• Eat when you get hungry. Stop eating if you get hungry.
Parents teaching this will give children a part of their children and avoid fighting with food. If Suzy does not eat, she can get out of the table. If she gets hungry later, she will offer a nutritious snack.
• If you feel stressed, discuss and discuss some options and find a feasible solution.
Unhappy child than letting him or her take a medication or toy. However, age-appropriate problem solving is a skill worth teaching.
Finally, since you do not know when to eat according to external clues, relieve difficult emotions, when to stop eating, in your excessive circumstances, it is time to examine your way of thinking about food and its meaning I think. You can reconsider and replace unintended messages you received about food when you are young. You may develop an intellectual relationship with food.